When it's Hard to Make Decisions
It can often be incredibly hard making decisions because we have a thousand details, scenarios, and other people's needs in that bucket all swarming around. When we are trying to weigh out everyone's needs and every detail, it is impossible to decide. It's too many details. In these situations, give yourself time to go within and check-in with that inner child's needs and that GPS inside of you.
Here are some steps that might help you make decisions in general
1. If you took everyone out of the bucket and it was just you, and you wouldn't disappoint anyone, what would you do? Starting any decision with clarity on what you want, before thinking of everyone else, is essential.
2. Then the next step might be checking in with the pull of your concern for what others want, so you get clear about that in a cognitive way, rather than an emotional way.
3. Next, you would want to stand in front of each path (option). Ask yourself, "When I stand in front of the path I want, how does that make me feel? If I feel guilt, let me be clear that I won't make a final decision out of guilt. Let me be aware of what the guilt is saying to me. Then, let me follow that up with how my inner child feels when I follow a path of someone else's choosing that is not the path I want to take. What does that bring up in me? Does my inner child tantrum? Feel ignored again? What is my inner child or inner GPS telling me?" Write this down.
Things to Remember
I will remember that what my inner child needs is more important than pleasing someone else. I cannot ignore my needs anymore, or I will be.....(fill in the blank) resentful? Angry? Depleted? Unbalanced?
I also remember that I cannot please everyone and that it isn't my job to do so. I remember that it feels empowering to do what is right for me.
I will put the guilt on the table and talk to it and get to know it. What is it saying to me, cognitively?
I remind myself that when I meet my needs, I feel better, have more energy, more patience, am healthier and more balanced, which means I raise the energetic vibration that ultimately is better for everyone around me.
Or I can ignore my needs once again and notice the spiral that follows. Notice it, though, and learn from it for next time.
Observe your choices. You have a choice to honor your needs, EVEN IF it disappoints someone. Bring that external focus into an internal one and ultimately decide if disappointing yourself and your inner child will be the right decision.
We cannot please everyone, and that is not our job, nor should we waste a lot of energy in doing so.
If someone is disappointed in our decision, it is NOT our job to fix them.
It IS our job to honor our needs and bring our focus to our internal child.
Pay attention to how you feel when you do honor your needs. Ultimately, it feels "icky" to ignore our needs and "good and empowering" when we honor them. That's the internal barometer that is always there to help you with a decision.
What comes up for you after reading this? Love to hear from you in the comments!
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