What Might Be Good for You to Let Go of?

I asked this question to members of my Sensitive Empowerment Community and I thought their answers may inspire you!

• I LOVE this question, and I meditated about it this afternoon. In meditation, I need to let go of everything, even the experiences I consider as unique I need to let go of expecting every meditation to be profound or to remember everything I learned the next time around. I need to trust that ill know and remember what I need to know when I need to know.

• Anger, resentment, trauma, fear, guilt, shame, and every now and again a person in my life who I feel really doesn’t align with me! ❤️

• Letting go of fear, self-judgment, and frustration. And rather trust I’ve been created perfectly as I am and I’m headed in the right direction with my life.

• I need to let go of self doubt and my tendency to seek validation from external sources like authority figures, peers, or my spouse. I know what I need and what’s best for me. I’ve been working on listening to my intuition and stepping into my own power. I’m not yet where I want to be but much farther than I was.

• I find it hard to articulate, but the feeling is the need to surrender the rucksack of expectations and responsibilities. Just put it down and be open to what may arise in that space. Not that I won't continue working/meeting needs, simply I do not have to carry the weight of it. I can return to the place of trust that inherent in the problem is the solution. That the question and answer exist simultaneously. My job isn't to 'figure it out’ but to exhale, allow space and be open to receive/translate the meaning from what arises.

• Toxic relationships with family members. "Friends" and acquaintances not so hard, but blood relations, oh boy. After years of overgiving and expectations, I've had my fill,  and am working on getting through holidays and birthdays not responding the way I would in the past. So grateful for tools and this HSP community. It takes a lot to "unlearn" a lifetime of false beliefs and conditioning.

• All of your shares are so inspiring and I took away a little nugget from each one. Most of all feeling that sense of the common struggles we all have as humans and HSPs

• I am so inspired by everyone's post and can certainly relate. I am working on releasing ingrained scarcity thinking that somehow there's not enough to go around and detaching from family ties with this. This is so significant and I love diving into ancestral healing for this sort of thing, seeing connections and learning what we can do now to make a difference.

• Constantly judging myself since many persons in my life judged me each and every day. I internalized it and I don’t know what life would be like without judging myself.

• Yes, and I’d be willing to bet that you judge others with a great deal more leniency than you judge yourself! I’ve come to accept the fact that if I am so quick to judge myself, then I can choose to judge myself with compassion. Also, another thing that has helped me over the years in bringing compassion to my interactions with others is: “What if I replaced judgment with curiosity?” Only recently have I begun to substitute curiosity for self-judgment. Might be worth a try! 

• I love "replace self-judgment with curiosity"

• Letting go of the expectations of others would create more internal peace for me.

• Letting go of expectations of myself rooted in perfectionism and the need to meet the expectations of others would create freedom for me, as well as space to be more creative. I'm ok just as I am and I don't need to prove it to anyone.

• Thanks, everyone for your shares, then I know I'm not alone letting go of the big stuff. Everyone here is so honest and just to read everyone's words is to know how deeply we are each making the world a better place just by the individual work we are doing. It can often be unsung work in this world but to my eyes each persons posts here are such victories. I'm glad our community supports us. Personally, I'm letting go of "all the non-self love" and of  being ashamed of putting myself first in my life. I'm also letting go of having to hide/cover over the fact that I even exist. And lastly, I am letting go of blaming myself for having lived this experience. I went through and cleaned the house yesterday and then used an herb stick to smoke each room and myself to aid this clearing. I'm looking forward to simple new beginnings and a more relaxed approach to a life of trust.

• Letting go of my anxiety, letting go of feeling there’s something wrong with me and that I’m not normal, letting go of self judgment and self criticism.

• I am letting go of my need to work hard to deserve a reward. I am letting go of feeling too responsible for other family members'’ lives/well-being. I let go of the strain to do things the way other more warrior types do them. 

• I'm working on letting go of having to be the "good girl" that I can say no to things I don't want to do without having to justify, apologize, or compensate in some way.

• The shares in this thread are so authentic, courageous, and empowering!! I’m letting go of negative self-talk and blame and embracing self-compassion and gentleness. I’ve been my own worst self-critic with perfectionistic tendencies for a long time. I’ve realized it can be a true comfort to be my own best friend, and having support of this community really helps me as I have struggled to feel I truly belong anywhere in this world. But I’m embracing my uniqueness more and more and knowing I’m not alone.

• Running away from my feelings, being with the intensity instead, staying in my body, knowing it will pass, feeling it all because I love being alive even when it hurts, grateful for and honoring this sensitive instrument for everything it transforms. 

• There are times that I still need to work on letting go of resentment for days and moments long since gone and I have to remember forgiveness means letting go of all hope for a better past and acceptance that if it were not for those past days and moments I would actually not be where I am as a person today, I would not embody what I embody, and I would not be able to wield the gifts that the struggles unknowingly gave me. 

• Toxic family members! I'm making headway with identifying boundaries and loosening their grip.

What do you want to let go of? Would you like to continue the conversation and get support to help you let go?

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Julie Bjelland is a Psychotherapist specializing in high sensitivity, host of The HSP Podcast, and Founder of the Sensitive Empowerment Community, whose mission is to create a paradigm shift where sensitivity is embraced, valued, and honored. Julie offers multiple essential resources for educating, inspiring, and empowering HSPs. Register for her free Masterclasses and profoundly transform your life in her courses and community. Her HSP Dating Group is a safe space bringing together conscious, kind, caring HSPs (both Hetero and LGBTQ+). Her HSPs in Business Group supports and empowers sensitive people to grow heart-centered businesses, share their voices, and be part of the change the world needs. Explore Julie’s website dedicated to supporting HSPs and download a free letter to give medical and mental health professionals about high sensitivity. ❤️🌈❤️ (she/her)